In a city the size of Jerusalem it's inevitable that you're going to bump into people you know at almost every turn; finding a place to go on a quiet date, particularly that awkward first encounter, is not an easy task and thank goodness not one that I have to worry about anymore - just another of the pleasures of being married!
This puts me on the other side of the picture - I'm now the one who has to behave appropriately when I bump into a friend with a date on his or her arm. Yesterday evening, my father in law won big brownie points by taking us out to dinner. As he's as big a carnivore as I am, we decided to allow him to take us to Lugar where the menu is interesting, steaks excellent and atmosphere funky.
As we were most of the way through our main course, my beloved pointed out a friend of mine heading away from the front door, obviously having been turned away as the place was full to bursting - I amused myself by sending a cheeky text suggesting that he booked next time.
Not 5 minutes had passed when I clocked another friend coming across the courtyard with a rather attractive young lady on his arm. It appeared that he had a reservation but as he hadn't spotted me I was left in the delicate position of deciding how to make my presence known to him. To have got up and charged across to slap him on the back and discuss how badly his team is doing might well have embarrassed him - although it ultimately proved not to be a first date as I suspected (Lugar is probably a 3rd date at earliest place), I don't think it's fair to impose the "meeting the friends" stage too early. I took the easy option out in the end - gave him a call, recommended the entrecote, and waved when he turned to try to figure out where I was. On the way out, I gave him a wave as her back was facing me.
So here's the question - what is appropriate etiquette when you spot someone with a date who you have not yet been introduced to? Is it polite to introduce yourself or should you make yourself scarce? Feedback please!
p.s. I know that there are more weighty items that I should be commenting on right now but I haven't really figured out the conflicting emotions - later I promise.